Dating a Single Parent

Tips To Help You Both

Dating a single parent is becoming more and more common.

And with divorce rates still growing it's likely that at some point in your dating life you'll date someone with children...even if you don't have any yourself.

Okay, maybe there are a few who are…but, honestly, most single parents who date are mature adults who can take care of themselves and their own children and they just want a normal relationship with another person.

When you're dating a single parent how much you do get involved in the lives of their children?

This is something that only the two of you can work out, everyone is going to have different ideas about this.

Some single parents will want no contact between you and their children, some will want a casual, friendly relationship to develop…and some will prefer that you have a step parent type of relationship.

There are no right or wrong answers, it's what both of you (and the children) feel comfortable with.

The key is to discuss any worries or concerns that you might have in an open way…the more you communicate, the less likely there are to be any problems.



But, however you and their children interact, it should probably be done slowly, one step at a time so that everyone gets used to adjusting to a new situation.

The single parent should be able to judge when and how you meet their children (if at all) and how your relationship progresses with the children.

He or she should also be able to guide you in the best way to get to know the children better…because just as every adult is different so, too, is every child.

Handled well, you and their children should be able to have a great relationship that is fun and fulfilling for everyone.

Don't think, when you're dating a single parent, that they'll only be able to love and care for their children - there'll be plenty of feelings to go around!

You might have to compromise in some situations because there are children involved.

Maybe a date has to be cancelled because their child is sick - things like this will probably happen from time to time, it's no one's fault and it's not much fun for anyone.

Just remember that you'll be an important, pleasurable part of a single parent's life…and he or she will want to balance the wants and needs of all of you so that everyone is happy!

And don't forget that the presence of his or her ex in the life of a single parent really isn't a threat to your relationship.

Most single parents only keep in touch to discuss issues relating to the children and nothing more, even if they're on friendly speaking terms.

If the ex has a problem with the fact that you're part of the children's lives, this is something that the single parent should be able to deal with and how much support you should give (and whether you get directly involved) is going to be different with each couple.

So, basically, if you appreciate the juggling act a single parent does to date you and respect the situation he or she is in they'll appreciate and respect you back!



Honestly, you really can date a single parent successfully – many people do it! If everyone involved has understood the importance of communication, honesty, compromise and respect you have the receipe for a rewarding experience.

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