Are Dating Rules

A Risky Game To Play?

There are a lot of different dating rules about the best way to succeed when you're dating.

A lot of them use an understanding of psychology to help someone get what they want when they're in the dating game.

There are rules for both men and women

...the ones for men are normally about how to seduce hot women.

The ones for women are often about how to make a man fall in love with her.

Books like 'The Rules…' by Ellen Fein and Sherrie Schreider and David DeAngelo's dating programme concentrate on dating rules to attract the opposite sex.

There's a lot of controversy about these rules because of the manipulation involved…

...a lot of men don't like the ones for women and a lot of women don't like the ones for men!

All these rules come down to one thing…and that's playing hard to get.

So basically, this is how the rules work...

...first, you see someone you like.

But you definitely don't make it obvious that you're attracted to them.

Instead instead you play it cool, even disinterested. If you manage to swap numbers then neither of you will call for at least three days.

And then one or both of you pretend that you're so busy with other exciting things in your lives that your date doesn't happen for a long time.

And if there are dates after that, they get arranged in a similar way…until you're both 'hooked'!

Bet you can't wait to get involved in that cycle!

Okay, game playing can and does work…there's no doubt that a lot of people use these techniques effectively. But, and it's a big but – there are problems that come up when you use them.

The main one is that if it seems like you're not interested in someone, then they might think that you're not interested! And the risk is that they'll get bored and find someone else. Most people won't see it as a compliment that you like them so much that you're showing no interest in them!

And a lot of people are aware of game-playing rules today.

So if someone thinks you're doing it to them, chances are that they'll run…no one really likes being played.

So instead of using dating rules why not try following three basic principles?

Number One is to be yourself.

Number two is to respect yourself.

And number three is to respect anyone you date.

Following these three principles will mean that you'll find the right person for you…which is what dating is all about anyway.

So call when you say you'll call someone…this is just basic dating etiquette. Don't avoid someone else's calls just to make you seem elusive.

And it really is fine to call someone to arrange a date the day after you've met – they'll probably find your attitude very refreshing!

Okay calling someone a few times every day in the early stages of a relationship is going to seem desperate!

So make sure you have a genuinely fulfilling life that is full of interesting activities for you to enjoy...this way dating won't be the only thing in your life.

And you'll naturally find the right balance between game playing and desperation.

And read our

dating tips for men, dating advice for women and general dating tips to really help you succeed in you dating life.

Finally, don't worry, lots of people on the dating scene don't play dating games or follow dating rules so you won't be alone!

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