Dating Younger Men

Tips To Make it Work

Dating younger men seems to be a big trend at the moment.

More and more women are following the example of big name stars like Demi Moore and Madonna and finding love with younger guys.

This makes a lot of sense…

...with divorce rates still growing, there are many women on today's dating scene who are in their 30's, 40's, 50's and 60's.

And because a lot of these women take great care over their appearance they still look amazing!

Not only do their looks catch the eye of younger men but their mature personality, confidence and self-belief in who they are, are all attractive attributes for men.

So if you're an older woman looking for or already dating younger men, what are the pro's and con's of being with
a younger guy?

The Pro's of Dating Younger Men

- Younger men are physically very attractive, especially as a lot of today's younger men take a lot of care over their appearance and make sure they have a grooming and exercise regime in place.

Okay, so looks are not the only important thing but they do play a part in attraction.

And if you've managed to interest a young, handsome man this will probably give your confidence a big boost!

- Men peak sexually far younger than women…so sex with a younger guy is probably going to be a great experience.

He'll have a lot of stamina and enthusiasm and he'll really appreciate your experience!

- Most young men were brought up in an era when women's rights were already fairly well established.

So he should be used to treating a woman as an equal and he'll probably respect your opinions and thoughts without patronising you.

- He will love the fact that you're probably much less needy and much more independent and wise about life than most of the younger women he's ever dated.

The Con's of Dating Younger Men

- A lot of young men just want fun without commitment and they aren't ready to settle down into a relationship.

This is fine as long as that's what you want too. Otherwise, you may end up being disappointed with his intentions.

- If you do both fall in love, the age gap might bring up issues about your long-term future.

For example, you might already have children and are not interested in any more…and he might really want to have a family.

Or he might struggle with establishing a relationship with your children. Our articles on single parent dating and dating a single parent will give you some useful advice about this.

Or his parents might have problems with the fact that their son is with an older woman.

The best way to handle this is to be understanding and appreciate that not everyone is open-minded...especially when it concerns their children.

Then try not to become too involved in the situation - he should be mature enough to handle his own parents.

- You might also start to feel pressure to stay looking as fabulous as you do now, just to keep him interested in your physical appearance.

By continuing to take care of yourself and being confident about your looks you'll always radiate both your inner and outer beauty.

And remember, he'll be getting older too!

- If you're at different life stages and levels of maturity then it may be that you don't really have a lot in common.

You might not get on with each other's friends or have the same goals and plans for your life. After a time, you may even find that you're mothering him much more than is ideal for either of you.

But it's important to remember that there are issues with all relationships, whether there's an age gap or not.

The key to sorting out these problems is to communicate with each other.

Make it clear what each of you wants and expects and don't get too hung-up on the fact that you aren't the same age.

This is about the two of you coming together as individuals and that's much more important than what physical age either of you are.

If you enjoy being with each other then you'll be able to overcome any obstacles that you come across.

'Cougar' by Valerie Gibson and 'Older Women Younger Men' By Susan Winter and Felicia Brings have great insights and valuable tips about dating a younger man.

And remember that there are a lot of women who have great success dating younger men. You're definitely not alone...so enjoy the experience!

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