First Date Sex

What Are the Rules ?

So do you have first date sex or not?

The answer to both those questions is that there are no rules about whether you should have sex on the first date or not.

This is a completely personal decision between the two of you...

and it's going to depend on religious, cultural and personal influences.

If you're both consenting adults then there's nothing wrong if you do decide to have sex on your first date…

...and absolutely nothing wrong if you don't.

This is about your personal right to choose.

Your decision will probably be influenced by the type of relationship you want with your date...

...if you're just dating casually, then you're more likely to have sex on the first date then if you're planning a long-term relationship.

If you decide not to have sex you definitely won't be the only person to make this choice…many couples wait until they know each better before they take the plunge!

So if you're in any doubt, it's probably better to wait, especially if you've just met someone and it doesn't feel right to be alone with them yet.

This will also show your date that you're interested in their personality and you don't just see him or her as a sexual object.

This will be a bonus in the long-term!

And if the other person has enough respect for you then he or she will be happy to give you more time to get better acquainted.

Just tell them something like 'I'm not ready for us to become sexual because I want to get to know you better.'

If they're unhappy about this, that's a problem for them to deal with.

Don't feel pressurised into doing something you don't feel comfortable about.

And if you're the one who wants first date sex and your date doesn't want to, be gracious and understand that this doesn't mean that he or she doesn't like you.

Some people will only have sex after the third date while others wait even longer.

The more you pressurise your date, the more likely it is that they won't ever want to have sex with you!

And what if you both decide that you do want to have sex on the first date.

Well, that's fine too…if you've both agreed then you can relax and enjoy the experience

Just remember to use a condom so that neither of you have any regrets afterwards.

First date sex is all about communication and respect between you and your date. Whatever you decide, no one has the right to judge any decision that the two of you make together..

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