How To Approach Women

Learning how to approach women is really important for your dating success.

Imagine you've seen a woman you like and you want to get to know her better.

Approach her in the right way and you'll increase your chances for a great outcome.

So what are the rules about how to approach women?

We've listed the basics below to get you started. For more detailed information, including techniques and strategies, click here.



- Be confident. Never under-estimate how important it is for a man to be confident in himself. To learn more about confidence read our guide on how to attract women.

Don't feel shy or apologetic about approaching her…women are used to men approaching them and it's how most relationships start.

The worst that can happen is that she doesn't want to talk to you.

Which leads us onto rule number two…

- Make sure that she wants to be approached. How can you tell if she's interested?

See if she's giving you the green light to go up to her by reading her body language. This will greatly increase your chances of a successful approach.

Read our page on flirting tips to get ideas on how to do this and what the signs of interest are from a woman.

- Remember that some women don't like being approached.

This is often nothing to do with you…maybe she has a partner or she just isn't in the right frame of mind for getting friendly with any man.

If she makes it clear that she doesn't want to talk to you, respect her enough to back off graciously…

...approaching someone who is clearly unwilling is just going to be a waste of your time.

- Approach a woman who is on her own or with a small group of girlfriends.

This is really important if you're not very confident. Approaching a big group of women can be risky...

...it can be very intimidating and it'll be much harder for you to have a successful approach if either of you are self-conscious.

Approaching her is easier if she's on her own...

...but the advantage of talking to her when she's with one or two girlfriends is that she'll probably be more relaxed and the conversation will flow better with other people there.

If she doesn't ever seem to be alone or in a small group, then try and wait until all or most of her group is distracted.

- If she's with a group of men and women why not start talking to one of the guys?

You'll probably be less nervous and that way you can try and find out if she's dating any of them without getting yourself in trouble!

If she's unattached it should then be easy to include her in the conversation naturally.

- Have a good pick up line in place.

Part of a successful approach will depend on what the first thing you say to her is. So don't blow it by becoming tongue-tied or blurting out something inappropriate!

Our page on the best pick up lines will give you some good ideas.

Once you know how to approach women it's easy! So go out there and practise and have fun!

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