How To Give A Massage

Sensuous Massage Techniques

Knowing how to give a massage is a great skill to have. The person you're dating will love it, especially if it's a sensuous massage! Everyone enjoys being pampered and you'll definitely be rewarded if you know a few massage techniques!

And because it's such an intimate activity, it helps create deeper connections between the two of you, whatever the stage of your relationship.

Basically, you're telling someone that you like him or her enough to make the effort!

The important thing when you're learning how to give a massage is to plan an atmosphere where both of you can feel relaxed and where every sense is stimulated.

So make sure you choose somewhere private. This is really, really important because you won't want to be interrupted once you get started! Ideally, your partner is going to be naked or nearly naked so find a time and a place where no children, parents, housemates, friends or over-enthusiastic pets are going to walk in! And no-one else will want to witness your sensuous massage techniques!

Find somewhere comfortable, not too warm or cold. Unless you've got a special massage table (and most of us haven't!) a bed is probably the best place for a massage.

Make time for the massage. Allow at least an hour for the massage and any follow-up activities! Don't make it rushed, the whole point is that you're giving your full attention to the other person.

Set the scene by turning the lights low. Scented candles are great for creating an intimate atmosphere.

Play soothing music in the background - romantic music or relaxation CDs will create a sanctuary-like feeling.

Why not dress-up (or down!) in something sexy? Your partner's eyes will appreciate the effort!

Use a massage oil when you're giving the massage, it'll make your partner smell and feel amazing. And it'll help you massage in smooth and flowing strokes.

Before you start, make sure your hands and the massage oil are warm! Put a few drops of the oil on your hands and rub them together before you touch your partner. Pouring oil straight on to their body isn't a good idea!

Use simple massage strokes Remember, you're still learning how to give a massage and unless you've trained for years you're not going to be an expert...so stick to a few basic techniques.They're really effective and at least you know you won't injure your partner!

- Start with your partner's back. Use your palms to make gentle circular motions on their skin. Follow this with circular finger movements up and down their back. Then use your palms and your fingers to trace vertical and horizontal lines on their back.

- Switch to rubbing movements for the other parts of their body - neck, arms, legs, buttocks, feet and hands all love attention!

- Explore their body with your hands as intimately as both of you are comfortable with, and enjoy the experience. This is the key to giving a sensuous massage...and it's going to be different for everyone!

- Change the pace and direction of your strokes from time to time, they'll enjoy this and it'll help stop your hands feeling tired.

- Make sure you're gentle, don't pinch the skin or apply a lot of pressure. This is not a meant to be a deep tissue massage.

Make sure that you find a position that is comfortable for you. Because giving a massage is for you enjoyment too!

A sensuous massage is a rewarding and fulfilling experience for you both! And now you know how to give a massage you'll be able to teach your partner how to do it too...with any luck they'll even repay the favour!

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