Understanding Women

What She Wants From You?

Okay, guys, so we're onto the big one – understanding women! This might seem impossible but it's like a secret language that you just need to know how to decode.

Understand her a little better and your dating life will become a whole lot easier…whether you're dating casually or whether you're in a long-term relationship.

If you've ever been close to any woman you've probably already worked out that women are driven by their emotions. This is really important and it lies at the heart of what makes a woman tick.

So we'll say it again…women are driven by their emotions!

This means that if you want the physical side of your relationship to be great you'll need to take care of the emotional side too.

For more information about the link between fulfilling your sexual needs and her emotional needs please click here.

If you're a player or you just want to date casually, it's better for both of you if you're honest with the women that you come across about your intentions. This way you're giving her a choice about the situation and she can protect her heart if she needs to. And then both of you can enjoy your encounters for what they are.

If you're open-minded about becoming involved in a relationship but aren't ready to commit to it yet, again be honest with her and tell her that you just need time to see where things are going.

And once you do become involved seriously with her, remember that her feelings will play a big part in your relationship. She'll want to talk about how she feels about things that are happening her life.

This is really normal for a woman and it's nothing to be scared of…by just listening to her you'll make her feel better about anything that's troubling her. Honestly, it's enough to say something like 'Poor you, I understand it must be hard for you at the moment'. She really doesn't expect you to solve any problems for her - sympathy is all she wants!

And definitely don't leave her alone if she's upset…this might be what you would want but she'll just think that you don't care about her.

Another important point to remember when you're understanding women is that all women are highly intuitive. You've probably been amazed many times at how she seems to be like a mind reader! This can be great because she knows instinctively what you like, what you don't like, how you're feeling and what you want at any given moment.

But it also means that she knows when what you're saying to her isn't the same as what she's picking up from you energetically.

So if you're just planning a casual relationship with her and you start telling her that the two of you have a long-term future she's going to start feeling uneasy because she's picked up other vibes from you.

And if you're in a serious relationship you've probably experienced situations where you tell a woman that you feel okay (even if you don't) and she just won't leave you alone!

There are three reasons for this….

Firstly, she'll feel uncomfortable and insecure because her instinct is telling her something different. Secondly, because your relationship is important to her, she'll automatically think that it's something to do with that. And, thirdly, women talk to solve their problems and she won't understand that men don't.

So next time you're not feeling okay and she asks you how you are, why not try saying something like 'I don't feel great, it's nothing about you or about us. I don't really want to talk about it now because that won't make me feel better…but if I do is it okay if I talk to you about it?'

See how this approach really works!

And if you are troubled by her or your relationship, be honest with her because she'll know if you're not being truthful.

A second issue with a woman's intuition is that she normally expects men to be intuitive too! And if you can't tell what she wants or how to please her, she sees this as a sign that you don't care about her.

This is why a lot of women become upset and angry if you haven't magically guessed what gift she would like or how she's feeling or what she needs at that moment. And it's why she might say something to you like 'If you cared, you'd know!'

Sound familiar?! Well, the way round this is to admit to her that you don't have intuitive skills because you're a man. Tell her that she needs to tell you what it is that she wants…and, because you DO care about her, that you'll do this.

Most women are reasonable when it's explained to them!

The last thing to know when you're understanding women is that all women want to feel special. This is true whether you've just met her or whether you're married!

If you're approaching a woman for the first time don't be surprised if you're not successful with her if she's seen you trying to pick up other women before her!

And if you're in a relationship show her every day what she means to you by thanking her for the things she does, complimenting her and giving her small gifts like a flower you've picked especially for her.

Or maybe just be affectionate towards her, hold her hand and hug her without it leading to sex. Women love this!

Small things like this will go a long way to making her feel happy.

There are three great books that will give you more tips on understanding women. These are the classic 'Men are from Mars, Women are From Venus' by John Gray, 'Understanding Women: The Definitive Guide….' By Romy Miller and 'Understanding Women: A Guide Book for Guys….' By Ben Goode.

So enjoy your new-found knowledge of understanding women and let your dating life be enriched!

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